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text @gadriel no one is safe from him

[thecodexabides]

[So remember a while ago, when you volunteered to be Gadriel's normal-to-Astartes translator? Because HE remembers. ]

what is
'making a pass at' someone?

is it aggressive? how do I win.

[spellblade]

[ She does and she meant it bud, you're fine. ]

Good morning, Gadriel.

What's the context through this was presented to you? Did someone say that was something you were doing, did they say that's what they were doing, or?

[thecodexabides]

someone asked

if I was making a pass at them.

Do I need to apologize?

[spellblade]

Ah, okay. They thought you were flirting with them. Expressing an interest in them for companionship of some kind.

You don't need to apologize, but you could clarify your intentions, whatever they are.

[thecodexabides]

what kind of companionship

like.
allies?
because yes.

why do i have to be clear when this entire expression is not?

[spellblade]

I can't say for certain, but since they used those words, probably romantic or sexual. Most people don't "make a pass" at being someone's friend or ally.

You don't HAVE to, because their assumption is on them, but you can if you want to make it clear what type of connection with someone you're seeking.

[thecodexabides]

if someone asks that
if you are
making a pass

(which sounds like a strafing run,
why are you all so confusing)
at them

Do they want you to be?

[spellblade]

Oh that I can't answer. They might have been hoping you were, or just clarifying your intentions so they could let you down easy if they weren't interested. You'd have to ask them.

[thecodexabides]

how do you
mortals
actually navigate this


absolute labyrinth

of interpersonal
chaos?

If i ask them, will they answer honestly?

[spellblade]

We're raised in it. It'll get better. You'll start picking up on things like body language and tone of voice.

I would hope so, but that isn't something you can control.

[thecodexabides]

My world must have a better way
or the Imperium would have fallen
from within
having to figure this out.

thank you for your assistance. [Hold up because Gadriel's lesson of the month is 'reciprocity'. He has been taking too much and giving nothing back.] how may i recompense you for your advice?

[spellblade]

You're welcome, I hope it helps.

You don't owe me anything for a conversation.

[ a pause. ] Have you talked to Nina?

[thecodexabides]

[That is not a satisfactory answer. He'll have to think of something. Surely it will be not at all strange or weird. ]

not since I sent her to mend
things with her friend
Finnick.

[He had sent her knowing there was the possibility she would not return. But he was tired of being the cause of strife between them. ]

Davrin has told me she is upset, but I do not know how to fix
anything.

[spellblade]

Do you want to fix things?

[thecodexabides]

Yes.

She is my sister.

I value her happiness
over my own.

[spellblade]

Have you considered asking her what she needs from you as her friend and brother?

I think she's a little afraid of being abandoned.

[thecodexabides]

I was trying
to respect her and give her
space.

I would never abandon her.
I miss her very much.

[spellblade]

Does she KNOW that's what you're doing?

You should tell her that.

[thecodexabides]

i
think?
so???

[The worst she can do is hang up on him, right? ]
I will try. At least she would know I tried.

[spellblade]

I only ask because, if she doesn't know, that could look like abandonment.

Yes, at least she would know you miss you and want her in your life.